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致谢

致谢

GARETH HOLMAN

有许多人帮助创造了这本书，不仅通过塑造书中的文字和思想，还通过在过去几年中帮助我成长。在编撰这份名单时，我感到自己非常幸运：Jen Loser，在恰到好处的时刻提出了创意是一种爱的行为的理念。Jonathan Bricker，在我决定是否接手这个项目时，他给予我安慰，认为尽管FAP缺乏强有力的证据基础，但本书可以提供有价值的贡献。“它将是一部美丽的临床指南。”Neil Kirkpatrick——我所认识的最有效（或至少最有主见）的行为治疗师——以一种极其有用的方式整理了第一章最初的草稿。Yvonne Barnes-Holmes、Carmen Luciano、Niklas Törneke、Joe Oliver、John Boorman、Miles Thompson、Nic Hooper、Kelly Wilson和Louise McHugh，在2015年柏林ACBS会议上，你们的工作清晰度和热情激励了我。那周里，书的内容有了巨大的飞跃。Tien Mandell，感谢你原创的工作以及对澄清和完善FAP理论的挑战。

Michael Vurek、Tore Gustafsson和Marie Blom，感谢你们对一些早期章节的评论和支持。特别是Marie Blom，找到了开启第二部分的精彩弗吉尼亚·伍尔夫名言。Fabian Olaz，感谢你与我分享友谊和成长。我们一起在这条过山车上。Benjamin Schoendorff，感谢你的善意话语。Joanne Steinwachs，感谢“不挑三拣四”的态度。Rachel Collis，感谢真实而真诚的工作关系。Daniel Maitland，感谢你的诚实、开放心态、正直和努力工作。Angela Cathey，感谢你的坚持和信念。Russell Kolts，感谢你的同情心和对桨板的愿景。Jenn和Matthieu Villatte，感谢友谊和兄弟般的归属感。Glenn Callaghan，感谢你相信这件事可以做得很好。Chris Hall，感谢友谊和外部视角。所有FAP社区的成员，感谢你们对这项工作的关心。我的客户来访和咨询者们，你们是我最宝贵的教育和目标。Kelly Koerner、Linda Dimeff、Katie Patricelli和Tim Kelly在循证实践研究所，感谢你们教会我很多然后让我自由飞翔。

Catharine Meyers、Heather Garnos、Katie Parr和Jesse Burson在New Harbinger出版社，感谢你们给我这个机会，并且在整个过程中以极大的耐心和热情支持我。Jasmine Star和James Lainsbury，感谢你们出色的编辑和悉心指导。Bob Kohlenberg和Mavis Tsai，感谢你们作为我的职业父母。这本书是我的真正论文。Jonathan Kanter，感谢你在过去几年FAP发展过程中作为我的同伴和朋友。

最后，我要向我的家人说，我爱你们。 Sarah和Jackson，我爱你们。

JONATHAN KANTER

我想感谢Alessandra Villas-Bôas和Glenn Callaghan对我关于FAP思考的重要贡献和个人支持；感谢我的妻子Gwynne Kohl的爱和支持；以及我的灵感来源Zoe Kanter，她让我看到所有事物无论大小都充满喜悦和美丽。

MAVIS TSAI

我想感谢多年来我在华盛顿大学FAP实习课程中的共同导师——Mary Plummer Loudon、Gareth Holman、Andrew Fleming、Julia Hitch、Hilary Mead和Daniel Maitland——帮助我创造了一个深刻的学习环境，在这里每个人的心灵创伤都被认可，我们的天赋被培养。Laura Brown、Julie Gottman、Barbara Johnstone、Kelly Koerner、Linda Luster、Joanne Steinwachs和Jennifer Waltz是心灵姐妹。我非常感激那些塑造了我的咨询者和学生们——你们中的许多人已经成为强大的FAP伙伴，激励着我的思想和心灵。还有Bob——你是我的生命之爱和光明，这一点永远不会改变。

ROBERT KOHLENBERG

回想那些早年为FAP埋下种子并设定条件的关系：Loren Acker、Ivar Lovaas、Steve Hayes和Barbara Kohlenberg。了解FAP历史的人也知道，Mavis和我之间的神圣关系一直是其核心。我也想感谢我的合著者Jonathan，当然还有Mavis，尤其是Gareth，他是这本书的灵感驱动力和主要贡献者。

知识点阐述

  1. 合作与支持的重要性

    • 定义：在学术研究和专业实践中，合作与支持是推动个人成长和项目成功的关键因素。
    • 重要性：通过与他人合作，可以共享知识、资源和经验，从而加速项目的进展和提高成果的质量。
    • 具体实践：
      • 建立良好的沟通渠道：确保团队成员之间有顺畅的沟通，以便及时交流想法和反馈。
      • 互相尊重和信任：建立一个相互尊重和信任的环境，鼓励团队成员开放地表达意见和建议。
      • 明确分工和责任：明确每个成员的角色和责任，确保每个人都清楚自己的任务和期望。

  2. 个人成长与专业发展的关系

    • 定义：个人成长是指个体在知识、技能和情感上的发展，而专业发展则是指在特定领域内的能力和成就的增长。
    • 重要性：个人成长和专业发展是相辅相成的，个人成长可以为专业发展提供坚实的基础，而专业发展又能促进个人的全面成长。
    • 具体实践：
      • 持续学习：不断学习新知识和技能，保持对领域的最新动态的关注。
      • 反思和总结：定期反思自己的经历和学习过程，总结经验教训，制定改进计划。
      • 寻求反馈：主动寻求同事和上级的反馈，了解自己的优点和不足，以便进行针对性的改进。

  3. 社区支持的力量

    • 定义：社区支持是指来自同行、同事和相关组织的支持，这种支持可以是知识共享、情感支持或实际帮助。
    • 重要性：社区支持能够提供一个安全和包容的环境，让成员能够在其中自由地交流和探索，从而促进创新和发展。
    • 具体实践：
      • 参与社区活动：积极参与社区组织的会议、研讨会和培训等活动，与其他成员建立联系。
      • 分享经验和资源：主动分享自己的经验和资源，帮助其他成员解决问题和提升能力。
      • 建立互助网络：构建一个互助网络，当遇到困难时可以相互支持和帮助。

  4. 家庭与个人生活的影响

    • 定义：家庭和个人生活对个人的职业发展有着深远的影响，它们提供了情感支持和动力，同时也是个人价值实现的一部分。
    • 重要性：稳定的家庭和个人生活可以为职业发展提供坚实的后盾，使个人在面对职业挑战时更加坚韧和自信。
    • 具体实践：
      • 平衡工作与生活：合理安排时间，确保在工作和个人生活之间找到平衡。
      • 重视家庭关系：花时间与家人相处，维护和谐的家庭关系。
      • 保持身心健康：关注自己的身心健康，保持良好的生活习惯，以最佳状态投入工作。

通过以上知识点的阐述，我们可以看到，无论是个人成长还是专业发展，合作与支持都是不可或缺的因素。同时，家庭和个人生活的稳定也是职业成功的重要保障。这些原则不仅适用于FAP领域，也适用于更广泛的职业和个人发展情境。

Acknowledgments GARETH HOLMAN There are many people who helped create this book, not only by shaping the words and ideas that went into it, but also by helping me grow over the last couple of years. Compiling this list, I feel like a very lucky man: Jen Loser, for presenting the idea that creativity is an act of love at just the right moment. Jonathan Bricker, for offering reassurance—­when I was deciding whether or not to take on this project—­that the book could offer a worthy contribution, despite the absence of strong evidence base for FAP. “It will be beautiful as a clinical guide.” Neil Kirkpatrick—­the most effec- tive (or at least opinionated) behavior therapist I know—­for sorting out the initial hairy draft of chapter 1 in a profoundly useful way. Yvonne Barnes-­Holmes, Carmen Luciano, Niklas Törneke, Joe Oliver, John Boorman, Miles Thompson, Nic Hooper, Kelly Wilson, and Louise McHugh, for inspiring me with the clarity and passion of your work during the 2015 ACBS conference in Berlin. The book crystallized in huge leaps during that week. Tien Mandell, for your original work and your challenge to clarify and make FAP theory useful. Michael Vurek, Tore Gustafsson, and Marie Blom, for your comments and support on some early chapters. Marie Blom, in particular, for finding the wonderful Virginia Woolf quote that opens part 2. Fabian Olaz, for sharing your friendship and your growth with me. We are on the roller coaster together. Benjamin Schoendorff, for your kind words. Joanne Steinwachs, for “No picking and choosing.” Rachel Collis, for a real, true working relationship. Daniel Maitland, for honesty, an open mind, integrity, and hard work. Angela Cathey, for persisting and believing. Russell Kolts, for compassion and visions of paddleboards. Jenn and Matthieu Villatte, for friendship and what feels like sibling affiliation. Glenn Callaghan, for believing that this can be done right. Chris Hall, for friendship and a view from outside. All the members of the FAP community, for caring about this work. My clients and consultees, who have been my most valuable education and purpose. Kelly Koerner, Linda Dimeff, Katie Patricelli, and Tim Kelly at the Evidence Based Practice Institute, for teaching me so much and then setting me free. Catharine Meyers, Heather Garnos, Katie Parr, and Jesse Burson at New Harbinger, for giving me this opportunity and then supporting me, with great patience and cheer, along the road it took to get here. Jasmine Star and James Lainsbury, for brilliant editing and holding my hand. Bob Kohlenberg and Mavis Tsai, for being my professional parents. This book is my real dissertation. Jonathan Kanter, for being my companion and friend as FAP evolved these last years. And to my family, I love you. Sarah and Jackson, I love you. JONATHAN KANTER I would like to acknowledge the important contributions to my thinking about FAP, and personal support, from Alessandra Villas-­Bôas and Glenn Callaghan; the love and support of my wife, Gwynne Kohl; and my inspiration to see joy and beauty in all things large and small, Zoe Kanter. MAVIS TSAI I would like to thank my University of Washington FAP practicum co-­instructors over the years—­ Mary Plummer Loudon, Gareth Holman, Andrew Fleming, Julia Hitch, Hilary Mead, and Daniel Maitland—­for helping me create a profound learning environment where everyone’s wounds are validated and our gifts are nurtured. Laura Brown, Julie Gottman, Barbara Johnstone, Kelly Koerner, Linda Luster, Joanne Steinwachs, and Jennifer Waltz are soul sisters. I am incredibly grateful to the consultees and students who have shaped who I am—­many of you have become mighty FAP com- panions who inspire my mind and heart. And to Bob—­you are the love and light of my life, and that will never change. ROBERT KOHLENBERG Thinking about relationships from way back that have planted the seeds and set the conditions that eventually led to FAP: Loren Acker, Ivar Lovaas, Steve Hayes, and Barbara Kohlenberg. Those of you who know the history of FAP also know how the sacred relationship between Mavis and me was and is at its core. I also want to acknowledge the contributions of my coauthors, Jonathan, and of course Mavis again, and especially Gareth, who was the inspirational driving force and main contributor to this book.

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