致谢
Acknowledgments GARETH HOLMAN There are many people who helped create this book, not only by shaping the words and ideas that went into it, but also by helping me grow over the last couple of years. Compiling this list, I feel like a very lucky man: Jen Loser, for presenting the idea that creativity is an act of love at just the right moment. Jonathan Bricker, for offering reassurance—when I was deciding whether or not to take on this project—that the book could offer a worthy contribution, despite the absence of strong evidence base for FAP. “It will be beautiful as a clinical guide.” Neil Kirkpatrick—the most effec- tive (or at least opinionated) behavior therapist I know—for sorting out the initial hairy draft of chapter 1 in a profoundly useful way. Yvonne Barnes-Holmes, Carmen Luciano, Niklas Törneke, Joe Oliver, John Boorman, Miles Thompson, Nic Hooper, Kelly Wilson, and Louise McHugh, for inspiring me with the clarity and passion of your work during the 2015 ACBS conference in Berlin. The book crystallized in huge leaps during that week. Tien Mandell, for your original work and your challenge to clarify and make FAP theory useful. Michael Vurek, Tore Gustafsson, and Marie Blom, for your comments and support on some early chapters. Marie Blom, in particular, for finding the wonderful Virginia Woolf quote that opens part 2. Fabian Olaz, for sharing your friendship and your growth with me. We are on the roller coaster together. Benjamin Schoendorff, for your kind words. Joanne Steinwachs, for “No picking and choosing.” Rachel Collis, for a real, true working relationship. Daniel Maitland, for honesty, an open mind, integrity, and hard work. Angela Cathey, for persisting and believing. Russell Kolts, for compassion and visions of paddleboards. Jenn and Matthieu Villatte, for friendship and what feels like sibling affiliation. Glenn Callaghan, for believing that this can be done right. Chris Hall, for friendship and a view from outside. All the members of the FAP community, for caring about this work. My clients and consultees, who have been my most valuable education and purpose. Kelly Koerner, Linda Dimeff, Katie Patricelli, and Tim Kelly at the Evidence Based Practice Institute, for teaching me so much and then setting me free. Catharine Meyers, Heather Garnos, Katie Parr, and Jesse Burson at New Harbinger, for giving me this opportunity and then supporting me, with great patience and cheer, along the road it took to get here. Jasmine Star and James Lainsbury, for brilliant editing and holding my hand. Bob Kohlenberg and Mavis Tsai, for being my professional parents. This book is my real dissertation. Jonathan Kanter, for being my companion and friend as FAP evolved these last years. And to my family, I love you. Sarah and Jackson, I love you. JONATHAN KANTER I would like to acknowledge the important contributions to my thinking about FAP, and personal support, from Alessandra Villas-Bôas and Glenn Callaghan; the love and support of my wife, Gwynne Kohl; and my inspiration to see joy and beauty in all things large and small, Zoe Kanter. MAVIS TSAI I would like to thank my University of Washington FAP practicum co-instructors over the years— Mary Plummer Loudon, Gareth Holman, Andrew Fleming, Julia Hitch, Hilary Mead, and Daniel Maitland—for helping me create a profound learning environment where everyone’s wounds are validated and our gifts are nurtured. Laura Brown, Julie Gottman, Barbara Johnstone, Kelly Koerner, Linda Luster, Joanne Steinwachs, and Jennifer Waltz are soul sisters. I am incredibly grateful to the consultees and students who have shaped who I am—many of you have become mighty FAP com- panions who inspire my mind and heart. And to Bob—you are the love and light of my life, and that will never change. ROBERT KOHLENBERG Thinking about relationships from way back that have planted the seeds and set the conditions that eventually led to FAP: Loren Acker, Ivar Lovaas, Steve Hayes, and Barbara Kohlenberg. Those of you who know the history of FAP also know how the sacred relationship between Mavis and me was and is at its core. I also want to acknowledge the contributions of my coauthors, Jonathan, and of course Mavis again, and especially Gareth, who was the inspirational driving force and main contributor to this book.